It takes both of you to make it work and it is mutually beneficial for both parities. The Bible pretty much says that married folks should be having sex and lots of it. No, really it says that the only time to refrain from sex is for a period of time for fasting and praying and that is only for a period of time, otherwise the devil will use that to keep you apart. The reality?
"Help. My wife doesn't want to have sex with me." - The Village
The spreadsheet chronicled the previous six weeks of their relationship, how many times he attempted to initiate having sex, and all of the reasons why she declined. Yesterday morning, while in a taxi on the way to the airport, Husband sends a message to my work email which is connected to my phone. On the flip side, this is a very private issue that she chose to make public to the entire world, so neither party made the optimal choice in how to handle this. I understand that consistent avoidance of intimacy from your own wife can be frustrating, but there is obviously more going on here than meets the eye. Perhaps, instead of complaining in such an impersonal manner or complaining at all , the husband should have sat down with his wife and voiced his concerns to her like an adult. There is still a lot to learn at 26, or at any age, but this is high-school mentality nonsense. This issue shows the importance for all of us to put more effort into effective communication in our relationships, and it also gives society a catalyst to start the overdue discussion.
My wife and I began our relationship as any two relatively awesome people do: we were friends for a while, long distance. Then we met and got into a relationship—and had some awesome sex. Pretty much every day.
Every relationship can go through dry spells when your partner is suddenly less interested in sex than you. It may a short-term problem related to stress at work or other issues that have driven your partner to distraction. Even more commonly, a sudden, hectic schedule—ranging from end-of-year exams to a do-or-die work deadline—can leave your partner exhausted and uninterested in anything more than sleep or a night in front of the TV. While dry spells like these are common and usually resolve on their own once things stabilize, a prolonged and unexplained disinterest in sex can be harmful to a relationship and the general well-being of both partners. Not only can this stir feelings of frustration and self-doubt but it may also leave you wondering whether this may be your first step toward a sexless marriage.