There is no one definition of virginity. Others may define virginity as never engaging in vaginal penetration with a penis, despite having had other types of sex, including oral stimulation and anal penetration. Some people may no longer call themselves a virgin after engaging in anal penetration or penetration with a finger or sex toy. Others may reconsider their virginity status after receiving or giving oral stimulation. Oh, the hymen — the stuff of legend.
How do we do that? One of the most important elements of sex with inexperienced folks is to do it on their timeline. Everyone has full autonomy over their bodies and consent can be revoked at any time. Not having to terminate an unwanted pregnancy. So sack up, and sack up. It also helps to be sober or soberish. A judgment-free environment means no disparaging or passive-aggressive comments about their inexperience, about their bodies, about their Hanson poster—anything!
27 Things You Should Know Before You “Lose” Your Virginity
Those three simple syllables, creating a whole new view of the hot girl right in front of you…. For whatever reason, guys assume that every virgin is a time bomb waiting to explode. Like a needy puppy that follows you around everywhere, only much crazier-looking, kind of loud, and constantly discussing your future wedding. Well, guys, now is the time to realize that not every virgin is a needy, emotionally unstable psychopath, waiting for her knight in shining armor to rescue her from the virgin tower. And breaking down the irrational angst you have, ridding you of forever fearing the virgin.