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http://Fighting4Youth.com Visit our website to get more tools and resources to help you end children talking back and misbehaving immediately! "Your job as an adult is not to get children to accept the rationality of your decisions. You just need them to follow the rules." Backtalk comes from a sense of powerlessness and frustration. People don't like to feel powerless, and that includes children. So when kids are told "no" they feel like something's been taken from them. They often feel compelled to fill that empty space with backtalk. I want to make the distinction here between backtalk and verbal abuse, because many times people confuse these two very different things. If your child has started saying hurtful or harmful things, the line between backtalk and verbal abuse has been crossed. For instance, if a child is cursing you, calling you names or threatening you, that's verbal abuse. If your child is saying, "This isn't fair, you don't understand, you don't love me," that's backtalk. Verbal abuse is a very negative behavior and has to be dealt with aggressively and up front. It's not that backtalk is harmless, but it's certainly not as hurtful and hostile and attacking as verbal abuse is. For parents who are dealing with verbal abuse in their home right now, rest assured that we'll be addressing this topic in an upcoming article. Backtalk itself can take several forms. One is the kid who can't keep quiet, no matter what you say: he or she has got to have the last word. And then there's the child who wants you to understand their point after you've already said "no." It's easy for kids to get into the mindset of, "If I could just explain it better, you'd understand my situation." So you'll get kids who present their problem or request repeatedly in the hopes that their parents will give in and respond to it. If their parents don't give them the answer they want, those kids will then try to re-explain, as if the parent doesn't understand. Often, as they launch into their explanation for the third or fourth time, the child and the parent will both get more frustrated until it ends up in an argument or a shouting match. Don't Respond to Backtalk: You've already set the limitWhy do parents react to backtalk after they've already won the argument? I think parents often see it as their job to respond to their children: to teach, train and set limits on them. And backtalk is an invitation to do just that. Just as the child re-explains things to the parent if they're told "no," the parent "talks back" and re-explains things to their child. So the parent's mindset seems to be, "If you really understood what I was saying, you wouldn't talk back to me—you'd accept my answer." Let me be clear here: That's not a rational mindset. It leads parents into attending and prolonging arguments in which they don't need to engage. Parents sometimes see backtalk as a challenge to their authority, but as long as you accomplish your objective, the fact is that your authority is fully intact. Shutting Down Backtalk: The PlanIn order to put a stop to backtalk, there are several things you have to do. First of all, when things are good, sit down with your child and lay down some ground rules. Discussions about these rules are critical to good communication and to cooperation down the road. I guarantee that you'll feel better as a parent if you set up rules and follow them with your children. Your goal then becomes following the ground rules instead of trying to achieve your child's acceptance. The first rule is, "I'll explain something once and I'm not going to talk more after that. If you try to argue or debate, I'm going to walk away. If you follow me or if you continue there will be consequences." You set limits on backtalk and you don't give it power. Another option is to set up a certain time of day in which your kid can talk back to you. You can say to them, "From 7-7:10 p.m., you can ask me to re-explain all my decisions. Save it for then. If you need to, write it down in a journal. Then at 7 o'clock, we'll sit down and I'll explain to you why you can't date a 22 year old or how come you got grounded for smoking. But at 7:15, our discussion is done. If you try to keep it going there will be consequences." That way, if you feel like you want to give your child an outlet to air his or her grievances, there's a way to do it without getting bogged down in constant arguing. byEmpowering Parents Related Keywords dealing with kids that talk back how to get your child to stop talking back stop talking about your kids how to handle back talk from kids http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pSlN-lPYkb8
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Kifi Hein (3 days ago)
Good job
huney dip (4 days ago)
My 13 years old daughter does not care about waking up to go to school she doesn't care if I take her phone and stuff away it makes it worse what should I do please help me
Polski Bracia (9 days ago)
nigga just speak with ur kids wtf why would you stop them from explaining themself
PotatoPlayz (10 days ago)
*I have talked back to exactly 56 adults in my entire life.*
Suzanne Norton (15 days ago)
Thank you Chris. I think you did a great job on this video and the topic. I enjoyed watching you and feel you shared a great strategy. My sons always hate this though.....when I won't continue to go back and forth. They get mad at me and tell me I won't listen to them and say things like, You always do that. And I often second guess myself. I hope they will understand when they get older and see in the big picture I for sure respect what they have to say. But back talk is a different animal. Thank you for your commitment to helping youth and parents. It's commendable. I hope you see this message.
Memo Acuna (15 days ago)
These kids need the teachings of Pei Mei in their lives. Get rid of the weakness from their weak parents lol.
catlover67803 (16 days ago)
So sick of this "I'm the parent, therefore I'm instantly right" logic in the comment section.
MiaMore (17 days ago)
Let me explain something to all the children in the comments. All throughout life there are laws, respect that has to be given and consequences. EVERYONE has them including your parents! Just because you feel that you are right or need to explain yourself does not give you the right to do so in every situation, you still have to RESPECT. I know, I know you are thinking what about my respect? Well, respect is earned whether you like it or not there is a pecking order everywhere in life even animals have it. There is a hierarchy and others must respect the hierarchy. Now I'm not saying that children do not have a right to express their thoughts or opinions but there's a time and place for everything and every argument is not it. Even as adults, you cannot go and argue with a judge, the police or your boss etc. You keep that up and see where it leads you. Through discipline your parents are just teaching you the laws of hierarchy and life and respect for that so that you can successfully navigate through life. if you decide to have your own children one day you will finally understand if your child treats you the same way that you treat your parents.
catlover67803 (15 days ago)
Ok, that's fair enough. But, if a parent asks you to do something, and gives you a reason like "because I said so", it's going to seem completely arbitrary. For example: Parent: go clean your room. Child: why? Parent: because I said so. Child: but is there any actual reason? Parent: no back talking! (Hits kid) Vs: Parent: go clean your room. Child: why? Parent: because there are so many toys on the floor that you've tripped over them multiple times. This will continue to happen unless you clean your room. Here, the child will either clean his room (in which case, problem solved), or continue to object. This is when it becomes "back-talking". Now, you can force the child to clean his room. And, as for the "there is a hierarchy later in life" argument, if people at the top abuse this power, most people rightly calles it an abuse of power. If a child is taught that the people above them are always right, they'll just sit there and do nothing about the abuse of power.
frank wakefield (18 days ago)
pure respect...obey your parents. they dont listen, always remember, their home but YOUR house.
juanita auelua (25 days ago)
I have an 11 year old he has ADHD since he was 5 this year he's been so hard to take care of he sneaks out of the house doesn't tell me where hes going or even bothers to ask if he can go so by the time i call him thats when i find out hes sneaked out the back door he stays out for hours we end up.looking for him he doesnt listen he answers back to everything i say he doesnt except no for an answer he screams loud and his voice gets louder everytime he tells us to shut up shut ur mouth mum i hate this family i want a new family this mum sucks i hate this mum i want a new mum this mum is a handicap ur not my mum anymore I don't want this dad my son doesn't get that his words affect us and they hurt my son is so angry he has a lot of anger inside him and as a mum I'm the one he vents at even if I've done nothing wrong I treat my son the way I would like to be treated but it never happens I do nice things for him but I feel like nothing i do is ever good enough he plays up at school i just dont know wat else to do talking to him doesn't do anything he gets worse and explaining to him why where angry with him he doesn't care smack him he still.doesn't listen it doesn't matter wat me and his dad do he doesn't want to understand and he gets cheeky in public he says the most nasty words in his angry loud voice doesn't care whose listening whose watching us I feel so embarrassed and ashamed at my son hurting me much when I do a lot of things for him and he has a younger brother and and older brother that has ADHD and mild autism so its not easy its a challenge everyday so any advice would really help me
Eskow 7 (26 days ago)
( using mom's account) Am I the only child here watching this to get their younger siblings behave?
Anne O (1 month ago)
I do agree with you. But of course we all want our kids to have opinions and be independent, and to help them getting to that stage,WE need to THINK very well before jumping to the NO, because it will be hard sometimes to change it. So don't feel pressured to give a yes or no as a parent, think more then decide, (till this stage it is conversation) and if NO was your answer, then it is a NO, but of course you will share your reasons with ur child..(after this, it is talking back).. We want to raise up open minded smart and polite kids not obedient and dependants..
staceyklj (1 month ago)
Great ideas! Thank you!!!
Real Deal (1 month ago)
Yeah, what if they follow you and carry on? I do believe it's a 2 way thing. Everyone needs to be heard it doesn't mean you have lost control, it shows that you are being fair, showing them it is not just about their opinion. It's not easy raising a teen! Mine is 13, nearly 14!! 🤦🏽🤦🏽
Sleman Gerdy (1 month ago)
Rule number one: love ur wife, love ur kids, love ur family, let go of every bad habit YOU have, because nothing can stop ur children from becoming you once again, so if u change all ur bad habits, when ur kids grow up they just do the same
Sleman Gerdy (1 month ago)
i was once someone every adult liked my behavior and that i was good at school all teachers and my parents liked me, when a personal problem happend between my self and a girl alone i lost everything, and now no one likes me, well, i didn’t asked for shit to happen like this, and i will talk back to an adult no matter who is he if he desrespects ANY behavior that i have, because everything i have is patient on what i have already just lost, sooooooo,,,,,,,,,, why u thing it’s disrespectful if a kid doesn’t let you disrespect him,,,,,,,,,,
Sam Deeprose (1 month ago)
Yeah. I fell into that trap tonight!
Butter Fly (1 month ago)
A factor to take in account is the other adalts around them to how they communicate around the children is important.. friends family, exc
Tae Bond (1 month ago)
THANK YOU 🙏🏽🌸💐🌷🌹🌹🌺
Inder Kaur (2 months ago)
What if they follow yup after you have walked away and keep talking?
Smoochy Pooh (2 months ago)
Wow! A lot of “pro talking back”people on this vid. I’m very surprised! I came here because trying to tell my 12 year old daughter “no” for any reason elicits an argument. She refuses to accept me telling her “no” nor any of my very well reasoned explanations for my refusal. It’s getting to the point where just being around her is a painful thing due to her absolute disrespect for her dad and I. Her tone of voice, her choice to argue against anything I say (even if I remark about how blue the sky is that elicits an attitude and an argument.). So all of you encouraging this behavior, I honestly don’t understand your positions. She’s taking advantage of the people who love her most, do everything for her and provide her with a very nice life. Neither my husband nor I disrespected our parents like this.
Brenda Cameron (2 months ago)
A child don't need to question a parents motive. You talk back when they tell you to do something, you deserve to be punished. End of conversation.
Fancy boat named Titanic (2 months ago)
How to censor your child's opinoin
Paige Templeton (3 months ago)
My sister is 13 and she has a really bad attitude towards our grandmother. It makes me feel bad too because she screams at her all the time. I’ve told her to stop. I’ve yelled at my sister for talking the way she does toward her. Nothing seems to be working. I just want it to stop.
Johnathon Cunt (1 month ago)
It called hormens it probably because she hit puberty a little late but it fine. She should be fine when she 14 .
Avery Jones (3 months ago)
I'm 15 and I'm staying with my aunt and cousins and my 7 year old cousin is soooo disrespectful he calls everyone around him dumb and lazy and if we are all in the living room having a conversation he will kick us all out to have it to himself and his mom (my aunt) will usually let him
Akin Pedro (3 months ago)
Being spanked as a kid doesn’t mean abuse, Not every kid that was hit as a child was abused It was a simple was of shutting up a bratty kid And way more effective than “grounding”
TruInk Tru Ink (3 months ago)
Just walk away. Let your child punk you.
Singing Channel (3 months ago)
You do not respect a child as an adult ever. A child is never to first in anything.
catlover67803 (15 days ago)
Are you joking? Giving a child the same respect you demand of them isn't "putting them first".
socksumi (3 months ago)
No one is immune from being questioned. Qustion everything.
Livininavan (3 months ago)
Spot on. My biggest mistake was giving my boys too many warnings and nagging and arguing.
Livininavan (3 months ago)
Spot on. My biggest mistake was giving my boys too many warnings and nagging and arguing.
Rachelle Meneses (4 months ago)
...my kids
Rachelle Meneses (4 months ago)
Me I talk gently for peace of mind
spy guy (4 months ago)
We dont have to listen
spy guy (4 months ago)
No we can talk back if we want were people to we have souls dumbass parents
Dan Wactor (4 months ago)
Great tips
DatBoi OverDerr (4 months ago)
Trust me any parents reading this, don’t just stop talking in the argument. You really just have to listen to them and try to make a compromise instead of just saying no to what they say. As a teenager myself it just makes you more and more mad. Because otherwise they are just not going to treat you with the same love and respect as they used to. Like me with my mother, she constantly does this and I really cannot say that I love and respect her the same way I used to anymore after she just stopped listening to what I had to say and just thinking that she is always right.
Steven Bullock (5 months ago)
I shared it these kids is out of pocket
Diamond Inacio (5 months ago)
Of all the videos I watched today of the same issues yours is the only one that helped.
Diamond Inacio (5 months ago)
OMG that's exactly what I'm going through. My son is saying things to me that hurt so deeply I don't think I even want him living here anymore. What do I do? Every consequence I give him he screams that I'm unfair. He compares what I do to him vs. His brother. He argues until I give no consequence. Thats why I dont want him here anymore. I just went through this exact same thing for the last 6 yrs with his brother. I can't take it anymore!
Tricia Thompson (2 months ago)
Diamond Inacio i feel ur pain....all u say here is my life. If u coukd afford he would be in military boarding sch...a session w him n i just ended...I AM DRAINED... hang in there u r not alone
Journey of Creative Mom (5 months ago)
So would constant shut up be considered as talking back
Adam Beller (5 months ago)
If obedience is your only goal, I suppose this method might work. If you want to raise rational, ethical, critical thinkers, teach your kids to communicate, question and negotiate. If you don't have a good reason for telling them what to do, you shouldn't be telling them what to do.
mysticalgamer aloy (5 months ago)
Wrong what if i tell we the best way we kids know that they dont that wrong!!
Eye Of Ra (5 months ago)
I’m 29yeAr old parent to a 9yr old my only child I’m lost at this point god help me
Scobra (6 months ago)
"Say that one more time...I fucking dare you to say that ONE MORE TIME!!!" Don't mess about with the little shits, show them who's boss.
Ivy Girl (6 months ago)
Why don't parents just be quiet and listen to what the kids have to say? It's not really talking back it's responding/giving an answer
Best Girls Toy OpeningLv (6 months ago)
I want to know what to do wen i talk back to difrent ftiends cuse i did it and now im crying but she did the same thing too..
Jameel Hambrick (6 months ago)
I been there with my 8 year old brother abd im 34 lol
juanita arbelo (6 months ago)
Good stuff! Thanx!
Golden Fantasy (7 months ago)
There is this child who is annoying, barbaric, uncontrollable and disobedient she says bad words and says nonsense that I don’t even get but annoys me so I get pissed off and shouted at that little shit then she finally is quiet but her attitude is which I don’t like, her father doesn’t even do shit his completely useless in judgement she pulls out my pants, laughs whenever I get calm and serious I NEED TO BE ANGRY IN ORDER TO MAKE THAT FUCK QUIET AND STOP WHY CANT HIS DAMN FATHER DO SHIT?! HIS EVEN MAD WHEN I SHOUTED AT HER CHILD TO STOP WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH MY UNCLE?! AND PLUS THIS CHILD TAKES SHIT TO FAR IM JUST MINDING MY OWN FUCKING BUSINESS AND THIS LITTLE FUCK JUST JUMPS OUT OF NOWHERE AND SAYS, “Dont talk back to me,” LIKE WHAT THE FUCK DID I DO TO YOU?! SHES ALWAYS THE ONE WHO TALKS BACK TO ME IM JUST QUIET IN THE CHAIR JUST SITTING AND RELAXING CAN YOU IMAGINE THIS?! THIS CHILD IS FUCKING RETARDED AND HIS FATHER DO HE DOESNT EVEN SAY ANYTHING WHEN I WAS IGNORING THE CHILD AND WHILE THAT FUCKTARD JUST SLAPPED MY FACE MANY TIMES AND PULLING MY PANTS OFF AND NOT ONLY THAT KICKS ME TOO IM NOT THE ONLY ONE WHO GETS THAT SHIT ALSO HER AUNTS THIS CHILD NEEDS TO GO TO THE CHILDREN CENTER JUST WHAT THE FUCK DID HER FATHER TAUGHT HER?!
Golden Fantasy (7 months ago)
There is this child who is annoying, barbaric, uncontrollable and disobedient she says bad words and says nonsense that I don’t even get but annoys me so I get pissed off and shouted at that little shit then she finally is quiet but her attitude is which I don’t like, her father doesn’t even do shit his completely useless in judgement she pulls out my pants, laughs whenever I get calm and serious I NEED TO BE ANGRY IN ORDER TO MAKE THAT FUCK QUIET AND STOP WHY CANT HIS DAMN FATHER DO SHIT?! HIS EVEN MAD WHEN I SHOUTED AT HER CHILD TO STOP WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH MY UNCLE?! AND PLUS THIS CHILD TAKES SHIT TO FAR IM JUST MINDING MY OWN FUCKING BUSINESS AND THIS LITTLE FUCK JUST JUMPS OUT OF NOWHERE AND SAYS, “Dont talk back to me,” LIKE WHAT THE FUCK DID I DO TO YOU?! SHES ALWAYS THE ONE WHO TALKS BACK TO ME IM JUST QUIET IN THE CHAIR JUST SITTING AND RELAXING CAN YOU IMAGINE THIS?! THIS CHILD IS FUCKING RETARDED AND HIS FATHER DO HE DOESNT EVEN SAY ANYTHING WHEN I WAS IGNORING THE CHILD AND WHILE THAT FUCKTARD JUST SLAPPED MY FACE MANY TIMES AND PULLING MY PANTS OFF AND NOT ONLY THAT KICKS ME TOO IM NOT THE ONLY ONE WHO GETS THAT SHIT ALSO HER AUNTS THIS CHILD NEEDS TO GO TO THE CHILDREN CENTER JUST WHAT THE FUCK DID HER FATHER TAUGHT HER?!
Unknown Luck6020 (7 months ago)
Yea wrong sometimes people mistaking back chat for a answer or a compliment and shouting or other forms is not really ideal best thing is to find out the problem and don’t assume, control is not always an option and not every want to control so do more research
ArtAndMe (7 months ago)
Oh my god thank you for this video it's great
Fantastic View (7 months ago)
My way or the high way and telling a child they don’t have a right for you to hear their side of the story only leads to rebellion. Sometimes children have good points that parents have not considered.
dominique Jackson (6 months ago)
As a child, one of the most important lesson is when you parents tell you to do something, you do it. Don't argue with them, just do it. And you never ever back talk to your mother while your father is around, he ALWAYS ends up coming your behind the moment you back talk! Just carry those chores out, kids. Communication is the key. Last time i checked, arguing with your parents gets you grounded or thrown out of the house! no kid is to be thrown out unless both parents throw him(or her) out
Andrew Bart (7 months ago)
"The other form" 0:54. The only reason a child would want to do that is because they feel as though the parent is not recognising the reason the child wants something so bad, whether it be because all of their peers are doing something or have something that he does not or the reason for him wanting this thing is attached to a deeply rooted emotional problem, If a parent wants their child KNOW that whatever they say is for the best, the parent must first acknowledge that just because they are older, doesn't mean they are always right. A parents responsibility is to raise their child without putting any emotion into their decisions but love. Parents OFTEN take their emotions and put it into the decision making process. YOUR CHILD IS NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR EMOTIONS IN ANY SCENARIO AND YOU MUST WATCH YOUR FEELINGS AT ALL TIMES OR ELSE YOU DO NOT OWN THE RIGHT TO HAVE A CHILD IN THE FIRST PLACE. Then again we are all human, no parent is perfect, do the best you can do but always keep it in the back of your mind that you are blessed to have such a responsibility of molding something that has no wrong, hate or evil in its body. The only reason a child will act what you consider "bad" (,which I consider stupid,) is because you or something external has put that "bad" in your child and you are delirious if you think that "bad" exists in this world, there is only hurt, lessons and love. Put this way of thinking into what your parents have done to you as well because you are innocent of everything "bad" you have done.
Andrew Bart (7 months ago)
Also, another reason to why a child talks back is that he or she can sense or pick up on your emotions and so they question it with all their innocence and perfectness and if you do not give them the respect to respond or if you dismiss what they say, they will pick up on that emotion you use to ignore them or to shame them and they will continue to question your decision because in most cases they are right, not about your decision but what you used to make that decision.
Ever After (7 months ago)
I do this all the time. My mom does this to me all the time. Sometimes my father. What if the kid says no and does it anyway?
Renee's Channel (8 months ago)
kids suck
Simply, Buy a stick...
EZIO AUDITORE (8 months ago)
1 THE BELT
Adnan Hossain (8 months ago)
nice
oksills (8 months ago)
Most of these comments really quite “interesting” ! You can plainly see which of these non-children were ,and mostly likely still are, disrespectful BACkTALKERS! They still do not understand, nor deal well with authority themselves! How sad to have parents that are still spoiled little children themselves!! Hence, all the little punks growing into big punks—— crime, abuse, and neglect just recycling!!!
catlover67803 (15 days ago)
So, telling parents not to simply say that they're right because "they're the parent" is disrespectful? Got it.
Brugar18 (8 months ago)
a good ol butt whopping with a belt does wonders
Levi Ackerman (8 months ago)
**Kid doesn't ask a second time and does something wrong** --> Get's smacked cause it did something wrong which could have been prevented by asking again and because parents think violence is the BEST way to "raise" a child **Kid asks a second time** --> get's smacked cause it asks again and doesn't do as it is told instantly Face it you pro-spankers: "Spanking" as you call it, or as it should be correctly called - physical abuse - is simply completely outdated. You only use it because you don't want to put more effort and brain into your raising style. You simply think "enough violence will solve it".
carnage 8mybrain (5 days ago)
+catlover67803 I think you just proved her point.
catlover67803 (16 days ago)
Michelle Engelbrecht ok what the hell are you on about
Memo Acuna (2 months ago)
I can see that.
Michelle Engelbrecht (3 months ago)
Levi Ackerman I wasnt pro spanking...but something you just said made me think: you said "outdated". Why are children becoming more and more disrespectful? As a teacher I have seen how society is eroding at the foundation of life already. I am starting to think that "outdated" was what kept society and families respectful.
Turtley Awesome (3 months ago)
Spanking is a useful tool if used correctly. It is not abuse in the right setting for the right reason.
ラマ事・V4X (8 months ago)
Can I use a gun instead ✋🏻?
montana2014sunshine (8 months ago)
Thank you my hero lesson heard, learned and will definitely implemented🤗. !!
dieselshug (9 months ago)
I needed this for my 11 yo, thanks!
Pastagamer77 (9 months ago)
Talking back is just a dumb excuse for parents to force there Opinion down there kids throat my parents wouldn’t let me say anything after they yelled at me and told me to stop talking back but the thing is THATS HOW TALKING WORKS ONE PERSON SAYS SOMTHING AND THE OTHER RESPONSES SOMETIMES KIDS HAVE TO EXPLAIN THE SITUATION
TemeryN (8 months ago)
when having a conversation I completely agree w/you however when a child is making a request of a parent and said parent responds unfavorably that's not a conversation - that's a denial of a request - no further "conversation" (ie back talk, explanation, etc) is needed....I'm sorry your parents yell at you! they should not be doing that and instead simply, calmly, deny your requests when they deem it necessary.
SOCADANCEBOOK McLeod (9 months ago)
This literally happened to me 2 days ago with a teen. And I pride myself on being peaceful. I totally forgot to not engage
Hanneke hartkoorn (9 months ago)
When watching your video I couldn't stop thinking 'how would I like it when I was treated that way?'. The answer is clear: I wouldn't appreciate it! I like to be taken seriously. Having a reaction to a rule seen brushed away as 'backtalk' is impolite, authoritarian and downright unfriendly. If I don't like to be treated that way, it follows that I don't treat my children or students that way. If I tell a student 'no, that's not possible', and the student reacts, I don't interpret that reaction as 'backtalk', but as an expression of frustration. I don't walk away, I don't ignore, but I treat them as a partner in the conversation. So, without getting into a discussion or brushing them away, I acknowledge their emotion and I reconfirm my decision, with a short explanation if necessary.
dustin741 (9 months ago)
How I stop my kid from taking back........ Back hand
John Thomson (9 months ago)
The biggest reason kids talkback is because parents don't listen. If your mind is made up beforehand, why on God's green earth, why shouldn't they be frustrated?????? If you think accepting their arguments is undermining your authority, you are as immature as they are. I call Bullshit on this.
Stop popping out babies in the first place. NOBODY in the future "owes" you for anything. When YOU force new beings into existence WITHOUT THEIR PERMISSION then you LOSE ALL RIGHTS TO COMPLAIN ABOUT ANYONE SAYING or DOING or BELIEVING ANYTHING or ANY political position, since EVERYONE is the result of BREEDING. This is why the world needs a tough ZERO CHILD LAW. Mandate vasectomies & abortions. Only after we make the world entirely FAIR and SUSTAINABLE, then we can breed again. Until then: OUTLAW BREEDING.
Don't breed. Problem solved.
richgs76 (10 months ago)
Just ask back talking in kids three questions and one sentence. 1) Whose house is this, 2) Whose food is in your belly,3) Who paid for the shirt on your back. Followed by the statement" My house, my rules, when you get your own place then you can make the rules . It worked for me when my dad said these words to me and I never talked back or acted disrespectful after that. Parents today seem to compromise with kids today, striking deals is not the way to gain kids respect.
Boss Baby Fuyuhiko (1 month ago)
That's not a good argument. Anybody can do that. And not everyone who feeds their children are good people.
Bofa (5 months ago)
richgs76 actually, if you're controlling and not letting kids have the last word, they feel more powerless and spiteful. So what if you give them a place to live, and food to eat. That's your job as a parent, you can't use that against your child because they can't do it themselves, according to law, and physical capabilities itself. You're also basically telling your kid " you will settle for whatever is given to you no matter if you like it or not ", which might I again state, adds to the feeling of powerlessness. Kids who are becoming adults need to learn proper adult skills, and you doing this basically hinders their ability to see unfair rules and question wether or not something should be compromised on for their own sake.
Shiroski O'charos (5 months ago)
Then what's the reason why do you have a children?
TemeryN (8 months ago)
he/she who pays the bills makes the rules - I was raised the same way! =)
Harv Potts (10 months ago)
I had my way around the house because I was a bouncer at a bar my bitch mother drank at, The establishment asked me to throw her out because she was drunk as was her boyfriend, I said YES SIR and dragged them out, I wrong a note as pee the incident and what my job requires of me. I wrote that it doesn’t matter who you are, there’s rules to follow and if you’re going to be drunk and stupid, breaking establishment rules, don’t expect me to follow any House rules. One night her boyfriend was there drunk and finally we had to call police and this time he was hauled off to jail. Mother couldn’t bail him out and I refused to bail him out saying, I’m leaving the fucker in jail and ain’t doing a thing about it. So he was in jail close to a year and he was a different person, he was a shell of the man he was before the court got through with him
Enlightened Inspired (10 months ago)
Hi Chris. I found this video very informative. If you get this message, I wanted to see if I could contact you for some help with my son. Thanks and keep up the good work.
Veronica Casale (10 months ago)
A+
Lurvens Joseph (10 months ago)
Maybe the parents should try to listen.
Snarky Remark (10 months ago)
'F I g h t I n g y o u t h'
Dad (10 months ago)
Parent here. You're right. Great points.
jbentley8383 (11 months ago)
Ok...my 11 year old daughter talks back...I speak to her and let her know what's up. So she continues back talking AND she brings her sister and brother into the mix by calling them names and getting them annoyed..then all 3 of my kids are annoyed and loud. Do you see? My daughter just created an environment in the household that I don't want by having both her brother and sister respond to her. What can I do about that? My other 2 kids don't have as much self-control as I do when it comes to "Not repeatedly saying what you have to say".
TemeryN (6 months ago)
patience will be a necessity! obv you're a caring parent, so glad to have helped, I hope it all works out well and quickly =) Keep your cool, keep your power and use lots of love on your young ones. Seriously all the best to you and your family <3
jbentley8383 (6 months ago)
TemeryN Thank you for your response. I will try those tips you gave me.. It'll be difficult...but I am patient.
TemeryN (6 months ago)
sorry for the long post, I hope you read it and it helps you =)
TemeryN (6 months ago)
so after she's misbehaved you let her watch netflix? This is going to be hard but you need to stop rewarding bad behavior. She's 11, she should be reading a book before bed IMO. Let her moan and whale all she wants but you can't give in to it, if you do you "loose" in her mind and she's "won" and you cannot allow that unless she's "winning" with good behavior....ie win/win situation. She's got you wrapped around her little finger. Why are YOU looking for the remote when it's her that wants to watch tv? May be start w/a remote caddy, a specific place/space/holder that the remote is ALWAYS to be left in, if it's not there no one can watch tv period. "Sorry, doesn't matter who did or didn't put it back, it's not back so no tv before bed, go to sleep now" and then let her/them moan, cry whatever but go on about your business, doing dishes etc and let the remote be/stay lost. On those nights read a story to the younger ones to get them sleepy (instead of tv) and the older one can listen or not as she pleases.... As for asking her to do something (clean room, pick up shoes, whatever) ask the first time, listen to her excuse, don't argue or explain anything, simply say "I heard you now clean your room", "you've already told me that and I hear you now clean your room" and don't stop, don't ask, tell, 100 times, 1000 times until you get your result AND no tv/video games/anything until X is done. She can sit quietly in her room if she's not feeling well (ie crying hard) and when she feels better you can come back out and then when she comes out tell her again "oh so glad you seem to be feeling better, it's time to clean your room". It's not going to be easy, she's going to fight you, bc you've always given in before, you have to stand your ground until (not 1 time, not 10 times, until) she does as expected. Please do this now, at 11, will be much easier than when she's 15 or 17.....great good luck, 3 children under 11 I don't envy you too much but I bet times like birthdays, Christmas, Easter, are super fun at your house <3
jbentley8383 (6 months ago)
Pipledo When I tell her to do something, and she's doing something else(most of the time just watching tv), she says "No", or "I didn't do it on purpose."(like if she knocked something over and didn't pick it up. She comes up with excuses on WHY not to do what I need for her to do. So I do listen to her. And I give her an reason to do that task..I say something like.."Well we don't knock something over and just leave it, we pick it up..can you do that for me?" Her usual response is the same excuse..as if its valid. My two other kids (10 and 12) listen to me just fine when I need for them to do something...but my 11 year old daughter makes it seem like she's about to climb a mountain, when its actually a simple task..like clean up her room or doing the dishes. I believe she's just lazy. How do I know? Nearly everynight we allow her to watch TV when its bed time...you know...puts them to sleep faster. She lays on the bed about to look for a show on Netflix. She can't find the remote(in which she handled last), so she asks someone else(who never had it) to search for it. Usually its me or my wife. I ask her "where did you put it?" She doesn't know... As I'm looking for the remote in her own room, she starts blaming her sister(10) for losing the remote, getting her sister annoyed. Usually..I don't find the remote that night and ask her if she wants to listen to Pandora on my phone...she says "No, I wanna watch Netflix!". I explain she can't because the remote is missing. She continues moaning and whining and blaming her sister for the missing remote..even tho she herself was the last one to have it. She doesn't stop moaning and whining until she gets what she wants....she sounds EXACTLY like a 5 year old and even makes a younger-sounding voice like she is actually younger. You may not understand the situations we go through with her on some nights.. Its like you try all you can that is FAIR to all the kids...but you don't want to do anything all special for your daughter because it would be unfair to the other kids. It's like only one kid gets special treatment because they are hard to deal with all the "I wants".
Laura Lei (11 months ago)
what do I do ?? I'm a single mom of 2.... my son wants to come home but my daughter needs 1-night alone w/me. God, the Guilt 😢
Justme (11 months ago)
Slap em
einblitz93 (1 year ago)
Clarification is most effective.
lilshogun (1 year ago)
i dont get it 😐 my parents always think im answering bak and shit when i only sed a lil thing wot tha fuck
Nicole Jolly (1 year ago)
I believe this now!
Xpert Gamer (1 year ago)
They dont like younger people to be smarter or better than them
Xpert Gamer (1 year ago)
I think parents use respect as pride
Xpert Gamer (1 year ago)
Unless that the parent is hypocritical or has pride
Queen (1 year ago)
Im a kid how can I stop talking back / having an attitude ?
TemeryN (8 months ago)
try the "1 page" method - when you've just been told "no" and feel really hurt grab a sheet of paper and write out your feelings. Sounds really dumb but your parents will be able to read that w/o feeling like they are getting attitude from you AND you'll be able to express your side, get them to really listen to what you have to say bc it's written down. I hope this helps you =)
Anne Boleyn (1 year ago)
Thanks for this
Fran M (1 year ago)
was on my moms computer and found this. I am offended...
Raven Smallwood (1 month ago)
Fran M 😝
Titan garcia (1 month ago)
same
Shilodog Smith (3 months ago)
Who cares?
Ab's Family Fitness (5 months ago)
So funny
amazing bear (1 year ago)
Damm lol
HitmanKing Jay (1 year ago)
Easy Scared the hell out of them
Rose (1 year ago)
This is was very helpful to me thank you very much.
_SROM_ (1 year ago)
NIGGA FUCK YOU!!!1!1! yes im 12
HazY Asap (1 year ago)
Shadowcat Mirage the world has changed over the years and idk how people think putting a bar of soap in ur childs mouth is right ur child will just hate u more im just stating my opinion so dont get all triggered ok.....ok
Shadowcat Mirage (1 year ago)
GamesWithMarco if you were my kid you'd be getting a good old butt beating old school. Parents shouldn't let little kids on social media and not watch what you're doing. Your mouth would be eating a bar of soap with that mouth!
Saoirse Potter (1 year ago)
we try to explain but they give out to us duuu then we get into trouble even tough we didn't do it 😒😒😒😒😒
Anastasia NC (1 year ago)
It's not back talk. It's called a conversation. It goes both way. I thought we all have the right to speak. They talk back because there finally learning independence. It would make it easier for the parent and the child if you try to respect them.
alberto abarzua (1 month ago)
Ur the parent and under your roof no one will tell u otherwise i will listen to u but doesnt mean im gonna let u get away with it because u might manipulate.
Eileen Little (2 months ago)
Shut up
lamodenior (2 months ago)
she looks bout 13. listen young one, just because someone is developing the idea of independence. As a child you are not fully independent. Which is why the ADULT is the guidance. IF the child has an OPINION however, the parent could listen, but if they do not agree it doesn't allow a child to go back and forth arguing. This is what is called "Talking back". Parents are the ones who set guidance, you don't argue with the law in real life because there are consequences. So take that into consideration.
Kenneth M. Andrews Jr. (3 months ago)
Child. No ADULT OWES YOU SHIT! You are a child. You earn the respect you want through your actions while growing. Your parent or guardian is doing the job you cannot do for yourself . Best advice is sit back , listen ,learn and grow.
Duane For Truth (3 months ago)
It is not a conversation unless the parent has set the tone of it as a conversation from the beginning. If I am telling my child that they are wrong about something, and they cut me off, or talk back without allowing me to fully explain, or they try to defend themselves when they are absolutely wrong.. then it is not a conversation. You do not have your own independence unless you pay your OWN bills and have your OWN place to live. But as long as you live under my roof! And I am fully responsible for your actions, then you are not allowed to talk back....Sorry.
Rusty Stafford (1 year ago)
Ok my son is a teen and I was looking for help with this so I've just learned that I am one of those parents trying to explain why I did what I did and you are SO right it does not matter what I say it is still an augment I'm going to try this write me a letter and see how this work's thank you for this
Seattle Morena (1 year ago)
what if the parent always gives the child what they want when they want. and if a child throws food or rocks on the floor and the parent see this happening but disciplines about out it, just ask if the child would like something to eat. by the way I'm the friend of this parent but I these things and help the parent by taking the child's Lego set away for cusing at the mom and sister and saying he wishes he could die. or the family would die. I really don't understand it plus he is a smart kid but has a very shy mother and loving Church going one. and he has a very physical nasty word attitude. his mother told me , he was acting because his friend doesn't like him anymore and she says she's medically check on him but he gets attached to people but when they don't like him he gets upset..... I just didn't like the fact of seeing such words come out of his mouth and come inside his nice home and throw rocks really hard damaging the wall and things and they were medium fist sized rocks not small ones. I have discipline him myself, even though I'm not the parent but he has listened to me .but I don't know what to think as this parents friend to help. can you give your opinion on this situation and or suggestions.
Shadowcat Mirage (1 year ago)
Seattle Morena if you give them what they want they will be spoiled and it makes it worse. Look at all the stuff these kids do on here. Dang they need soap in their mouth. So disrespectful..

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