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WTF? WEDNESDAY Dating and Relationship Advice Questions & Answers | Deborrah Cooper

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Some of the wildest dating and relationship advice questions you've ever heard, answered live in real time every Tuesday. This week we will be on WEDNESDAY because of the Xmas holiday. CATCH DEB LIVE! Every Tuesday at 6:00 PM (PST) Deb goes in hard, responding in her no-nonsense but hilarious way to dating advice questions submitted by channel visitors on TOTALLY TRIPPIN TUESDAY. On THINK ABOUT IT THURSDAY Deb presents lessons in love and life that most people prefer to avoid and don’t want to talk about. And on SHYT TALKING SATURDAY and/or SUCKA FREE SUNDAY, she responds to your questions and discusses controversial issues in modern culture, gender issues, marriage, dating, and other interpersonal relationships. SUBSCRIBE! Become a subscriber to THE DEBSTERISM CHANNEL and join the excitement! Don’t miss a show; be sure to click that bell symbol to get instant notifications of when we go live, because sometimes Deb just POPS UP with no notice for MONKEYSHINES MONDAY, WTF?! WEDNESDAY, or FUCKERY FRIDAY FIND WHAT YOU'RE INTERESTED IN There are hundreds of videos on this channel which address a wide variety of issues and questions singles have on love, dating, romantic intimacy, relationships, marriage, single black men, single black women, and modern U.S. culture. Find the videos which address topics of interest to you by using the SEARCH THIS CHANNEL function. SUBMIT YOUR DATING/RELATIONSHIP ADVICE QUESTIONS Use this form and submit your advice question in either text form or a short video that you can record right on your phone or computer! http://survivingdating.com/give-me-a-shout/relationship-advice-question-submission-form CONNECT WITH DEBORRAH COOPER Twitter: @http://www.twitter.com/MsHeartBeat Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/deborrahxcooper Relationships Blog: http://www.survivingdating.com Black Vegan Blog: http://www.blacksgoingvegan.com Natural Hair Blog: http://www.yournaturalhair.com Amazon Author Page: http://www.amazon.com/Deborrah-Cooper/e/B0088RYP12 RECOMMEND A MALE GUEST for HE SAID/SHE SAID Complete form at https://goo.gl/forms/V2d3D5nDuxFr7Vdx2 HELP SUPPORT THIS CHANNEL A one-time flat amount donation, or a monthly pledge of anywhere between $5-50 will help show your belief in the hard work Deborrah does for single women worldwide. Support the growth of the channel by doing your part to get new equipment and production assistance to make better videos for you! PATREON SUPPORTER: Monthly Pledge: https://www.patreon.com/deborrahcooper ONE-TIME DONATION: https://www.paypal.me/deborrahcooper
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Paige (1 month ago)
How ironic that the black man doing the most for that white women is asking a black women for help. God they're so pathetic.
LBC Ulrica (2 months ago)
This one had me going thru flashbacks—1st boyfriend didn’t get me anything for Christmas and then cheated on me after I dropped him off on Christmas Eve after I gave him his gifts.  Last boyfriend didn’t get me anything for Christmas then gave me a picture of him in sunglasses playing with his phone that was obviously taken by some other woman.  The other girl who’s going back to the violent guy—that’s a trauma bond—I’ve been there, too.  Ugh.  So much pain for us girls.
Foxstream (2 months ago)
When Aunt Deb was like 'You couldn't put a sista through medical school?" I died laughing. I don't ever hear a sister getting big money like this. I'd like a rich guy to pay for my school. Where our luck at? Instead, sistas getting sucked in the 'struggle love' movement and spending their assets on a broke nignog
Shedu BlaqVoodou (2 months ago)
Lmbo! That African won’t place his funds in a trust. I can just sense that he automatically distrusted your wisdom simply cause you suggested he invest in a black woman. She’s gotten him to pay her way through medical school while supporting her. She did all this without marriage tying her assets to him. I’m sure he’s so full of self contempt-and desperate enough for her genetics- that he will gladly sign away whatever resources he has for the self esteem boost he’ll receive if his kids are one half less African.
missball404 (6 days ago)
that's sad, that Africans don't appreciate being African our blood is valuable
Siatta Mass (2 months ago)
#11... I was in a relationship previously that was not healthy. I moved on pretty quickly and cut him all the way off. One of my girlfriends would ask a year later if I was going to ever call this guy again and suggested that we could at least be friends. WTF?? This is a pretty typical mentality of women out here. Keeping themselves caught up in negativity and drama for no reason. If shit isn't right...dangerous...etc, move on and dont ever make contact again. Lawd!!
Splat the roadkill Cat (2 months ago)
I dumped my emotionally cheating lying devious ex. Cut off contact and still get an idiot saying I saw them ( With ex) the other day or if he ever contacts you...as if that coward would! He knows I'd fry his arse and I do not want know what he is doing. I hope his choices are burning his arse. I feel ya.
Deborrah Cooper (2 months ago)
Yesh I don't get that either. He was a knucklehead...Why would you want to be friends with a knucklehead??
mizzmolly (2 months ago)
I'm telling you Deb, you really should start charging these crazy-ass people $50 per 5 minutes to answer their questions. They're coming to you for help because psychiatrists refuse to see them. LOL!
Deborrah Cooper (2 months ago)
mizzmolly (2 months ago)
#1 "Practically rent free?" He IS living rent free! How do women allow themselves to be used like this?
LBC Ulrica (2 months ago)
It's really sad. Those poor kids having to see their mother be parasitized by that loser.
Deborrah Cooper (2 months ago)
Desperate for some. Others raised to think they need to do everything in the world to "get and keep a man."
faith elle (2 months ago)
For number 2. I would be out that is too much to deal with.
faith elle (2 months ago)
Number 1. Hell no. A wise woman once told me if you live with a man he should be paying most of the bills. A woman with kids have about three to four jobs; childcare, house hold chores, the 9-5, and having sex with a man if she is in a relationship. And on top of that some men expect women to pay all the bills. Pleeease hell to the no. I would rather be a cat mom forever.
Bufftygirl 72 (2 months ago)
Letter #11 likes him and the sex! If he was all what she said he was she would have sent that card in the mail!! She likes that wild sex. He is a bad boy. This is my problem with females that go looking for danger after she already knew his character was bad!! He played her. She willingly went to his home. It would be different if she was just meeting him and he changed up on her. Just tragic.
Deborrah Cooper (2 months ago)
None of what you said is true. This girl suffers from abused wife syndrome. Her behavior towards her abuser is textbook.
Rayon (2 months ago)
I don't think it's fair to say he will automatically abuse any children he has, yes abuse can often be perpetuated but he seems self aware and realises it was wrong what happened to him. A lot of abuse survivors can think of nothing more abhorrent than inflicting the abuse they suffered on to others.
Deborrah Cooper (2 months ago)
Without a doubt if that man does not get some long-term psychological counseling to understand the damage done to HIM, he will repeat the acts. It is not that "a lot" of abuse survivors do anything. Males and females will abuse children in myriad ways...emotionally, verbally, physically, psychologically (as in abandonment and neglect) because of the abuse they suffered and their mental/emotional confusion. It is never wise to gamble with your child's mental health to try to prove a point about some fucking "fairness." When it comes to children, if you are going to be unfair, always err on the side of caution and protection and you can never, ever be wrong.
LoveBug Paris (2 months ago)
Aunt Deb, Please do a show about family jealousy.
Deborrah Cooper (2 months ago)
I have no idea what that means. Please submit ideas as stated in the video by EMAIL. [email protected] Flesh that out so I have an idea of what you are actually talking about. As written its very vague and confusing.
In your own league (2 months ago)
Makes me wonder who abused my dad cause that sick fuck abused me and his own mother knew it and turned a blind eye. Maybe she did it cause he tended to favor women who were tiny and child like something his mother was not.
Donna B. (2 months ago)
This was an excellent show. Look forward to the next one.
Ti Fit (2 months ago)
Hope you had a great Christmas!!!
Ivriy Ascending (2 months ago)
Girl.... That letter about the cross-dressing husband? If that woman don't fire his behind! WTF?
Meriamen (2 months ago)
I'm glad you had a nice Xmas Deborrah! I wish you fantastic new year too and all the best for 2019! Love you! Peace from London!
Deborrah Cooper (2 months ago)
Clozehorse (2 months ago)
Thank [email protected] Reena Marie for your words of encouragement/and wisdom during the livestream. I had to leave the stream unexpectedly and didn't see your comments until now.
52:51 OMGGGGG ms.cooper this one took the cake😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😅😅😅😭😮😮😮🤗
Bea Landrin (2 months ago)
Girrrrrrrrrl!!!! I CANNOT 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😖😧 That's a freaky deaky Nigga right there 😕
ZhanaZee (2 months ago)
Deb I have a married male friend who I talk to often and we've exchanged intimate info to each other. Here is the thing. We are not attracted to each other at all. Hes handsome but not my type. He's more like a brother to me..he's perfect for his wife. I never cross boundaries to make her feel uncomfortable.....in fact she and I also hang out. He also might share our conversations with her. I don't care in my mind she's family too. I look at them both as extended family. If anything happened to either one of them....I will be there for either of them. We have a nature relationship not based on secrets sex or exclusions. So it can work. We've been friends for almost 30 years. I never....ever...impose my time with him...with hers. It's called respect!
LBC Ulrica (2 months ago)
I had a guy friend like this from work, and I (stupidly) thought that he, his wife, and I were friends. They are the age of my parents, and I'm not interested in him at all. We were friends at work, and I'd go over and hang out with them on the weekends sometimes. I spent most of my time with her, b/c he golfs all weekend, and leaves her alone. Then her daughters started thinking I was having an affair with him and convinced his wife, too. His schizophrenic daughter was screaming at me in the middle of the night, and I had to lock myself in my room and sleep with my knife. I left their house with my girlfriend who'd come down with me never to return again. Then his wife died 2 years ago, and he asked me out within 3 months. I was like, "Hell no! Your family is CRAZY, and I have enough problems." I wish it were different, but you cannot be a single woman who is friends with a married man. Even if he's old and ugly, that wife thinks you want him.
Virgo Goddess 2567 (2 months ago)
You sound like you want youre friend even though he is married. If I were you I wouldn't make it be known I had feelings for him let him come to you.
ZhanaZee (2 months ago)
Deborrah Cooper I actually met him first and did not know for a long long time like a few years that he was married. We would hang out in the clubs all the time till the wee hours of the morning..but always just dancing. Someone asked him if he was married and he said yes to my shock! I asked him why he never told me and he said cause I never asked...every time I called him she NEVER picked up the phone so I assumed he was single. When I finally spoke to her on the phone after calling....one night she picked up the phone she knew exactly who I was. Even knew my voice which suggested while on speaker phone she could hear my voice on nights when she was home( she worked in a hospital..odd hours)And yes we made silly songs together about silly shit. I think the difference with our relationship was.....He...never excluded her from our conversations. When I finally met her we would hang out sometimes. Her husband had lots of female friends including me but never ever crossed sexual boundaries. He was very respectful, faithful and loyal to his wife which is why I loved him as a friend. I never worried about him crossing that boundary ....he was my safe male friend. We just lived to go out clubbing just to dance. His wife on the other hand loved drinking smoking sitting up in bars....where ppl just sat down...we both hated that kind of fun. We were house music heads. The house music dance community here in NYC back in the day was all about dancing the music and fellowship with like minded ppl. It was never a place where hookups were the main focus....or ppl flirting and getting frisky was the main objective. ....dance moves and rhythms were...and we both connected on that tip...and would have so much fun.....and leave the party....at the party and go home.
Deborrah Cooper (2 months ago)
Did you meet him through his wife? Were you her friend first then started excluding her to get closer to her dude? Do you two have "your song?" Do you two have intimate secrets from his wife? There is no comparison between your friendship and this advice letter. The entire foundation of the relationship is different, and therefore unrelated. Plus we're not talking about you nor your situation. This young lady has a frenemy on some fuck shit who needs to be checked. She's doing toooooooo damn much.

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