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SCPT 44: Undo Management In Oracle
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Oracle DB 12c - Instance Parameter Change Impact
Oracle DB 12c - Instance Parameter Change Impact Watch more videos at https://www.tutorialspoint.com/videotutorials/index.htm Lecture By: Mr. Parth Panjabi, Tutorials Point India Private Limited
Oracle Database : Undo Management Short Overview
Oracle Database Undo Management Short Overview
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Oracle DB - Configuring & Managing the Oracle Network
Oracle DB - Configuring & Managing the Oracle Network Watch More Videos at: https://www.tutorialspoint.com/videotutorials/index.htm Lecture By: Mr. Parth Panjabi, Tutorials Point India Private Limited
Oracle Architecture
This video describes the best architecture of the oracle after trying more than times to Oracle structure I decided to produce an animated video let's start first with the database structure on the left side you have the client here on the right side you have to serve a two-year the server side is divided in three main structures to memory the logical structure and the physical structure so let's use SQL Plus application to provide you every step up a transaction will be using Scott sample schema it is important to note that the whole string is an alias and not a database name district will be compared to this alias inside of a file called pianist named doc or this file is similar to a DNS and with up pain all the necessary detail to reach a database server locally a user process will be allocated and will validate the connection through a listener the listener will be in charge to allocate a server process the user processes da link to the server process let's now execute our first transaction for this example we will execute an update first to state that will be validated we call this step the parsing this server process sense back to confirmation of the parsing that statement with be written into their share pool and the redo log buffer an execution plan will also be created it to the fair share Paul that database book they choose fought the transaction will be read and copy into the database buffer cache only that feel implicated in that transaction will be held it to a - segment till the transaction is completed we call those copies the before image a copy of this block will be duplicated with the updated feel this copy is called me after image a confirmation will be sent to to use a process the commit statement will complete the transaction and will be written into to redo log buffer to commit statement triggers the log writer process and we'll send all statement for the current transaction into the redo log file the before image into undo segment could be then deleted went that threshold up to undo retention parameters reach alaskan from Asian will be sent to the user process went to current law kiss Paul it generates a switch lock triggering at the same time the archiver process and to log sequence number the archiver will generate and archive the file with the content of the current loc a switch up with them trigger a checkpoint process that will incriminate the checkpoint number by applying this last number into each data file header the checkpoint process with finally trigger the database writer process enright the last image from that database buffer cache into thirty people
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How to Perform Incomplete Recovery Until Time Base Using Rman Backup. /* Step By Step /*
We can Perform incomplete recovery until Time using Rman Backup. Incomplete Recovery Means The Database upto the specific point in time in the past, before the recovery operation was required. There where many types of incomplete Recovery. But in this video i am showing you only Time base Incomplete Recovery Using Rman Backup. We can perform easily To fillow this steps to perform Time Base Incomplete Recovery Using Rman Backup. This is easy to Understand.
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Oracle DB - Restore & Recovery
Oracle DB - Restore & Recovery Watch More Videos at: https://www.tutorialspoint.com/videotutorials/index.htm Lecture By: Mr. Parth Panjabi, Tutorials Point India Private Limited
Oracle DB - Manage Files (OMF)
Oracle DB - Manage Files (OMF) Watch More Videos at: https://www.tutorialspoint.com/videotutorials/index.htm Lecture By: Mr. Parth Panjabi, Tutorials Point India Private Limited
Tablespace management II
In this vedio how to create big datafile,how to create temp tablespace,default tablespace and some important views in tablespace management II .....thanks you for watching...
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Oracle DBA 11g Tutorial in Bangla: Lesson#6 Configuring the Oracle Network Environment
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how to manual database creation on oracle 11g
how to manual database creation parameter file -- ------------------------------------------------------------------ db_name=TEST Instance_name=TEST Control_files='/u01/home/TEST/control01.ctl' Db_block_size=8192 Undo_management='auto' Undo_tablespace=undotbs1 Undo_retention=900 Compatible=11.2.0 Memory_max_target=400m Memory_target=300m Log_buffer=100 Workarea_size_policy=auto Diagnostic_dest='/u01/home/TEST/diag' ----------------------------------------------------------------------- control file -- --------------------------------------------------------------- CREATE DATABASE TEST user sys identified by oracle user system identified by oracle logfile group 1 ('/u01/home/TEST/redo01.log') size 50m, group 2 ('/u01/home/TEST/redo02.log') size 50m, group 3 ('/u01/home/TEST/redo03.log') size 50m maxlogfiles 5 maxlogmembers 5 maxloghistory 50 maxdatafiles 100 maxinstances 1 datafile '/u01/home/TEST/system01.dbf' size 100m autoextend on sysaux datafile'/u01/home/TEST/sysaux01.dbf' size 100m autoextend on default tablespace users datafile '/u01/home/TEST/users01.dbf' size 100m autoextend on default temporary tablespace temp tempfile '/u01/home/TEST/temp01.dbf' size 50m undo tablespace undotbs1 datafile '/u01/home/TEST/undotbs01.dbf' size 200m; ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ script -- -------------------------------------------------------------------------- @$ORACLE_HOME/rdbms/admin/catalog.sql @$ORACLE_HOME/rdbms/admin/catproc.sql connect system/oracle @$ORACLE_HOME/sqlplus/admin/pupbld.sql -----------------------------------------------------------------------------
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TUTORIAL - Managing Undo Data & Performing Flashback Oracle 11g Enterprise Edition
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Configure oracle database in flashback mode. And how to works guaranteed restore point!
In this video I am going to show you how to configure oracle database in flashback mode. And how to works guaranteed restore point. Using this amazing feature we can recover data and tables without restoring any backup
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Oracle DB - Multiplexing Control Files
Oracle DB - Multiplexing Control Files Watch More Videos at: https://www.tutorialspoint.com/videotutorials/index.htm Lecture By: Mr. Parth Panjabi, Tutorials Point India Private Limited
Change Undo Tablespace in Oracle
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Can you flashback table into SYSTEM tablespace?
Flashback feature in Oracle database is well known to roll back the table to a specific timestamp (depends on undo retention) or to restore dropped table and many more. We must have used this flashback feature so far on application schema objects and found working without any issues. As an Oracle DBA did you configure any tools (might be monitoring, RMAN catalog or any) with objects created in SYSTEM tablespace? If so, you probably would see some problems later when you need to use Flashback on these objects though they are not Oracle supplied objects. Let us go through a case study which will clearly explain you the functionality of Flashback table. Did you like the video? Subscribe now, Like it and share it. Looking for Oracle DBA training or services? redirect to www.orskl.com WhatsApp to +919951696808
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Starting and Stopping database control - ETIT 427 - ADBA - IP University Syllabus
Starting and Stopping database control - ETIT 427 - ADBA - IP University Syllabus For Students of B.Tech, B.E, MCA, BCA, B.Sc., M.Sc., Courses - As Per IP University Syllabus and Other Engineering Courses
1Z1-067 - Upgrade Test Oracle9i10g11g Exam Database Questions
For Oracle 1Z1-067 Test Questions and Answers Please Visit: https://www.PassEasily.com/1Z1-067.htm Exam Section 1 – Oracle Data Test Protection Questions (Test Coverage 22%) Exam Section 2 – Performing Test Basic BackUp and Recovery Questions (Test Coverage 24%) Exam Section 3 – Using the RMAM Recovery Catalog Questions (Test Coverage 10%) Exam Section 4 – Performing BackUps Questions (Test Coverage 21%) Exam Section 5 – Using Oracle Test Secure BackUp Questions (Test Coverage 23%) (Exam Time) : 2.5-3.5 hours (Number of Test Questions): 150-220 (1Z1-067 Passing Score): TBD% 1. Oracle Data Protection Solutions •Explain Oracle backup test and recovery solutions o Describe types of database failures o Describe the tools exam available for backup and recovery tasks o Describe RMAN and maximum availability architecture o Use the SYSBACK questions privilege o Use RMAN stand-alone and job commands 2. Performing Basic Backup and Recovery •Back up and recover a NOARCHIVELOG database o Perform backup exam and recovery in NOARCHIVELOG mode o Use SQL in RMAN 3. Configuring for Recoverability •Configure and manage test RMAN settings o Configure database questions parameters that affect RMAN operations o Configure persistent settings exam for RMAN o View persistent settings o Specify a retention test policy •Configure the Fast Recovery Questions Area o Explain the Fast Recovery Area o Configure the Fast Recovery Exam Area •Configure control files and redo log files for questions recoverability o Multiplex control test files o Multiplex redo log files 4. Using the RMAN Recovery Catalog •Create and use an RMAN test recovery catalog o Configure a recovery catalog o Register target databases exam in a recovery catalog o Catalog additional backup files o Resynchronize a recovery questions catalog o Use and maintain RMAN stored scripts o Upgrade and drop a recovery exam catalog •Protect the RMAN recovery catalog o Back up the recovery test catalog o Re-create an unrecoverable recovery catalog o Export and import the questions recovery catalog o Create and use Virtual Private Exam Catalogs 5. Implementing Backup Strategies •Use various RMAN backup types and strategies o Enable ARCHIVELOG test mode o Create tape and disk based exam backups o Create whole database backups o Create consistent and inconsistent questions backups o Create backup sets and image copies o Create backups of read-only test tablespaces o Employ best practices for data exam warehouse backups 6. Performing Backups •Perform full and incremental backups o Create full and incremental test backups o Use the Oracle-suggested backup exam strategy •Manage backups o Configure and monitor block change questions tracking o Report on backups using LIST, REPORT commands o Manage backups using CROSSCHECK, DELETE commands 7. Configuring RMAN Backup Options and Creating Backup of Non-Database Files •Use techniques to improve backups o Create compressed backups o Create multi-section test backups of very large files o Create proxy copies o Create duplexed backup exam sets o Create backups of backup sets o Create archival questions backups •Perform backup of non-database test files o Back up a control file to trace o Back up archived redo log exam files o Back up ASM diskgroup questions metadata
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Oracle DB - Recovery Catalog
Oracle DB - Recovery Catalog Watch More Videos at: https://www.tutorialspoint.com/videotutorials/index.htm Lecture By: Mr. Parth Panjabi, Tutorials Point India Private Limited
Extent Management
Extent Management With storage parameter
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Oracle Tablespace Concepts
Oracle Tablespace Concepts
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Oracle DB - Multiplexing Redo Log Files
Oracle DB - Multiplexing Redo Log Files Watch More Videos at: https://www.tutorialspoint.com/videotutorials/index.htm Lecture By: Mr. Parth Panjabi, Tutorials Point India Private Limited
5 Tablespace Extent Block Management
Oracle DBA Block Management in tablespace.
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5 Oracel DBA Tablespace Extent Management Part-II
About Extent Management theory + practical
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Oracle Tablespace Management
Oracle Tablespace Management , Creating tablespaces
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Oracle Database 10g: New Features for Administrators
This course introduces students to the new features in Oracle Database 10g - the database for Grid computing. Students learn how to use Oracle Database 10g new features to increase database availability, to simplify database performance monitoring and tuning through the use of Oracle Database 10g Advisors, and to offer simplified database manageability. The course also covers security and some development platform changes that students need to understand if applications running in databases support the related features. Hands-on practice sessions give students an opportunity to examine many of the new features for themselves. Course Objectives: Implement improved manageability features to simplify database management Utilize database advisors to provide proactive database monitoring Increase data availability through Oracle Database 10g features that offer improved point in time recovery Assist developers using Oracle Database 10g features in their applications ________________________________________ Course Topics: Introduction How DBAs Spend Their Time Oracle Database 10g Manageability Goals Oracle Database 10g Solution: Self-Managing Database Grid Computing Oracle Database 10g: The Database for the Grid Installation Installation Performance Enhancements Installation New Feature Support Automatic pre & post install validations CD pack contents Server Configuration Database Features Usage Tracking Automatic Enterprise Manager Configuration Simplified Initialization Parameters Simplified Database Install Load and Unload Data Cross-platform Transportable Tablespaces External Tables Unload DataPump Export and Import Utilities Automatic Management Automatic Checkpoint Tuning Automatic Database Diagnostic Monitor Automatic Shared Memory Tuning Automatic Optimizer Statistics Collection Automatic Undo Retention Manageability Infrastructure Advisory Framework Automatic Routine Administration Tasks Server-generated Alerts / Threshold-based Alerts Automatic Workload Repository Application Management and Availability SQL Access Advisor SQL Tuning Advisor New performance overview charts in EM Rule-based optimization (RBO) obsolescence SQL Support for Analytical Applications MERGE Command Enhancements Partitioned Outer Join Integrating Interrow Calculations in SQL Summary Management Enhancements System Resource Management Setting Idle Timeouts Switching Back to the Initial Consumer Group at End of Call Database Resource Manager - Adaptive Consumer Group Mapping Monitoring the Resource Manager The Scheduler Core Scheduler Features Privileges for Scheduler Components Calendaring Expressions Advanced Scheduler Concepts Space Management Segment Advisor New Segment Resource Estimation Online Segment Shrink Proactive Tablespace Management Undo Advisor Sorted Hash Clusters Improved VLDB Support Bigfile Tablespace Enhanced Partition Management in Enterprise Manager Global Partitioned Indexes - Hash Partitioning Local Partitioned Indexes Manageability Improvements Temporary tablespace groups RMAN Enhancements Flash Backup and Recovery Backup Compression Drop Database Automatic Channel Failover for Backup & Restore Incrementally Updated Backups Simplified Recovery Through Resetlogs Flashback Any Error Flashback Database Flashback Table Flashback Versions Query Flashback Transaction Query Flashback Drop General Storage Management Rename Tablespace Redo Logfile Sizing Advisor SYSAUX Tablespace Copying Files using the Database Server Automatic Storage Management Data mirroring with ASM ASM Dynamic Rebalancing ASM Striping ASM General Architecture ASM Disk Groups Failure Groups Maintain Software Oracle Database 10g Upgrade Paths Easy Upgrade (key DBUA features / one script upgrade) Upgrade Information Tools (pre/post) Security Enhancements VPD Static and Dynamic Policies Column-level VPD Uniform Audit Trail Miscellaneous New Features Transaction Monitoring End-to-End Tracing Logminer Enhancements Resumable Space Allocation Enhancements Regular Expression functions
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Creating a user, Authenticating users - ETIT 427 - ADBA - IP University Syllabus
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1Z0-064 – Oracle Exam Performance Management Test Tuning Questions
For more information on Oracle 1Z0-064 Practice Test Questions Please Visit: https://www.Pass-Guaranteed.com/1Z0-064.htm What am I going to be tested for? The 1Z0-064 Oracle Database 12c: Performance Management and Tuning candidate will be tested for knowledge in topics such as: Monitoring Real-Time Database Operation, Monitoring Applications, Identifying Problem SQL Statements, Influencing the Optimizer, Reducing the Cost of SQL Operations, Using SQL Performance Analyzer, SQL Performance Management, Using Database Replay and more. Which are some of the topics of the 1Z0-064 Management and Tuning exam? Test Topic 1: Basic 1Z0-064 Tuning Diagnostics Questions (Exam Coverage 24%) Test Topic 2: Using Exam Automatic Workload 1Z0-064 Repository Questions (Exam Coverage 22%) Test Topic 3: Using Test Metrics and 1Z0-064 Alerts Questions (Exam Coverage 17%) Test Topic 4: Using 1Z0-064 Baselines Questions (Exam Coverage 21%) Test Topic 5: Using AWR-Based 1Z0-064 Tools Questions (Exam Coverage 15%) Who can attend to the Oracle Database 12c: Performance Management and Tuning test? The 1Z0-064 Oracle Database 12c: Performance Management and Tuning exam is designed for professionals with knowledge in the Oracle 12c platform and would like to become proficient in the Performance Management and Tuning area. It is recommended to have the Oracle Database 12c: Performance Management and Tuning training before attending the 1Z0-640 test. Can you give me some in-depth information on the 1Z0-064 exam topics? • Using 1Z0-064 Database Replay • Tuning the Shared Test Pool • Tuning the Buffer Exam Cache • Tuning PGA and Temporary Questions Space • Using Automatic Memory • Use and tune 1Z0-064 Automatic Shared Memory Management • Use and tune Oracle Automatic Memory Management • Diagnose database I/O exam issues • Using the Database Resource test Manager What’s the 1Z0-064 passing score and duration? The duration of this exam is 150 minutes (84 questions) and a minimum passing score of 62%.
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Oracle DBA Justin - How to backup an 11g Oracle database hot  # 3 of 4
How to backup an 11g Oracle database hot
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Oracle 12c Performance Essentials exam - Auto Memory Management
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Starting Up database instance - ETIT 427 - ADBA - IP University Syllabus
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The Magic of SQL: Time Travel
Ever wish you could travel back in time to undo a mistake? With Oracle you can! With flashback technology you can view and recover data as it existed at some point in the past. In this video Chris Saxon shows you how. ============================ The Magic of SQL with Chris Saxon Copyright © 2015 Oracle and/or its affiliates. Oracle is a registered trademark of Oracle and/or its affiliates. All rights reserved. Other names may be registered trademarks of their respective owners. Oracle disclaims any warranties or representations as to the accuracy or completeness of this recording, demonstration, and/or written materials (the “Materials”). The Materials are provided “as is” without any warranty of any kind, either express or implied, including without limitation warranties or merchantability, fitness for a particular purpose, and non-infringement.
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Chrysler 300 Battery Replacement - The Battery Shop
Some vehicles like this 2007 Chrysler 300 have their starting battery in the trunk and although the replacement procedure is pretty straight forward there are a few extra stepa you are going to have to take. Before you begin, always check with the origional equipment manufacturer's step by step instructions to be sure you have everything you need, you don't forget anything and you can safely replace a battery in a vehicle like this. Always wear safety glasses when working on or near batteries.
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Develop scalable Web Apps with Azure Database for MySQL and MariaDB : Build 2018
Building a secure Web App on Azure has never been easier!. If you want to build a website using Wordpress, host an e-commerce site, or any Web App with LAMP stack, and want a database that is self-managed, look no further than Azure Database for MySQL and MariaDB services. These intelligent, fully managed database services provide built-in high availability and security with elastic scaling that helps you save costs, even compared to running on IaaS VM. Learn about these database services and discover how you can take advantage of these capabilities with a session that is focused on building an app with these databases. Create a Free Account (Azure): https://aka.ms/azft-sql
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oracle 12c admin training | oracle 12c administration online training | oracle rac tutorial
Website : https://www.abhijja.com Email [email protected] Phone + 91 9710018997 Oracle 12c Admin Online Training Concepts : Introduction Oracle Database Architecture Oracle Database Architecture: Overview Oracle Database Instance Configurations Connecting to the Oracle Database Instance Oracle Database Memory Structures Process Architecture Process Structures Process Startup Sequence Database Storage Architecture Managing the Database Instance Introducing Oracle Database Management Tools Understanding the Enterprise Manager Management Framework Logging in to Oracle Enterprise Manager Database Express Using the Enterprise Manager Database Express Home Page Using Enterprise Manager Cloud Control Using SQL*Plus Using SQL Developer Initialization Parameter Files Configuring the Oracle Network Environment Oracle Net Services Overview Oracle Net Listener Overview Establishing Oracle Network Connections Tools for Configuring and Managing the Oracle Network Using the Listener Control Utility Using Oracle Net Configuration Assistant Using Oracle Net Manager Using Enterprise Manager Cloud Control Managing Database Storage Structures Understanding Storage of Data Database Block Contents Exploring the Storage Structure Creating a New Tablespace Overview of Tablespaces Created by Default Managing Tablespaces Viewing Tablespace Information Using Oracle Managed Files Administering User Security Database User Accounts Predefined Administrative Accounts Creating a User Authentication Unlocking a User Account and Resetting the Password Privileges Roles Profiles Managing Data Concurrency Overview of Locks Locking Mechanism Data Concurrency DML Locks Enqueue Mechanism Lock Conflicts Managing Undo Data Undo Data Overview Transactions and Undo Data Storing Undo Information Comparing Undo Data and Redo Data Managing Undo Configuring Undo Retention Guaranteeing Undo Retention Changing an Undo Tablespace to a Fixed Size Implementing Oracle Database Auditing Separation of Responsibilities Database Security Monitoring for Compliance Standard Database Auditing Unified Audit Data Trail Separation for Duties for Audit Administration (AUDIT_ADMIN and AUDIT_VIEWER roles) Configuring the Audit trail Specifying Audit Options Performing Database Maintenance Database Maintenance Viewing the Alert History Terminology Automatic Workload Repository (AWR) Statistic Levels Automatic Database Diagnostic Monitor (ADDM) Advisory Framework Enterprise Manager and Advisors Managing Performance Performance Monitoring Tuning Activities Performance Planning Instance Tuning Performance Tuning Methodology Performance Tuning Data Monitoring Performance Managing Memory Managing Performance: SQL Tuning SQL Tuning Oracle Optimizer SQL Plan Directives Adaptive Execution Plans SQL Advisors Automatic SQL Tuning Results Implement Automatic Tuning Recommendations SQL Tuning Advisor Simplifying Management Tasks Understanding a Simple Job Core Components Basic Work Flow Persistent Lightweight Jobs Using a Time-Based or Event-Based Schedule Creating a Time-Based Job Creating an Event-Based Schedule Managing Space Space Management Overview Block Space Management Row Chaining and Migration Free Space Management Within Segments Types of Segments Allocating Extents Allocating Space Creating Tables Without Segments Backup and Recovery Concepts Categories of Failures Flashback Technology Understanding Instance Recovery Phases of Instance Recovery Tuning Instance Recovery Using the MTTR Advisor Media Failure Configuring for Recoverability Moving Data Moving Data: General Architecture Oracle Data Pump SQL*Loader External Tables Working with Oracle Support Researching an Issue Logging Service Requests Managing Patches Applying a Patch Release oracle 12c admin training,oracle 12c administration training, oracle weblogic 12c administration training, oracle rac tutorial,how to configure oracle rac, how to setup oracle rac, how to convert to oracle rac, oracle rac training in pune, oracle data gard training in pune, oracle oca training in pune, oracle dba 12c training, 12c oracle rac, how to migrate to oracle rac, oracle real application clusters, oracle rac, oracle asm concepts, automatic storage management, oracle database 12c, oracle 12c webinar, 12c
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Auburn Coach Wife Kristi Malzahn Agrees with Match & eHarmony: Men are Jerks
My advice is this: Settle! That's right. Don't worry about passion or intense connection. Don't nix a guy based on his annoying habit of yelling "Bravo!" in movie theaters. Overlook his halitosis or abysmal sense of aesthetics. Because if you want to have the infrastructure in place to have a family, settling is the way to go. Based on my observations, in fact, settling will probably make you happier in the long run, since many of those who marry with great expectations become more disillusioned with each passing year. (It's hard to maintain that level of zing when the conversation morphs into discussions about who's changing the diapers or balancing the checkbook.) Obviously, I wasn't always an advocate of settling. In fact, it took not settling to make me realize that settling is the better option, and even though settling is a rampant phenomenon, talking about it in a positive light makes people profoundly uncomfortable. Whenever I make the case for settling, people look at me with creased brows of disapproval or frowns of disappointment, the way a child might look at an older sibling who just informed her that Jerry's Kids aren't going to walk, even if you send them money. It's not only politically incorrect to get behind settling, it's downright un-American. Our culture tells us to keep our eyes on the prize (while our mothers, who know better, tell us not to be so picky), and the theme of holding out for true love (whatever that is—look at the divorce rate) permeates our collective mentality. Even situation comedies, starting in the 1970s with The Mary Tyler Moore Show and going all the way to Friends, feature endearing single women in the dating trenches, and there's supposed to be something romantic and even heroic about their search for true love. Of course, the crucial difference is that, whereas the earlier series begins after Mary has been jilted by her fiancé, the more modern-day Friends opens as Rachel Green leaves her nice-guy orthodontist fiancé at the altar simply because she isn't feeling it. But either way, in episode after episode, as both women continue to be unlucky in love, settling starts to look pretty darn appealing. Mary is supposed to be contentedly independent and fulfilled by her newsroom family, but in fact her life seems lonely. Are we to assume that at the end of the series, Mary, by then in her late 30s, found her soul mate after the lights in the newsroom went out and her work family was disbanded? If her experience was anything like mine or that of my single friends, it's unlikely. And while Rachel and her supposed soul mate, Ross, finally get together (for the umpteenth time) in the finale of Friends, do we feel confident that she'll be happier with Ross than she would have been had she settled down with Barry, the orthodontist, 10 years earlier? She and Ross have passion but have never had long-term stability, and the fireworks she experiences with him but not with Barry might actually turn out to be a liability, given how many times their relationship has already gone up in flames. It's equally questionable whether Sex and the City's Carrie Bradshaw, who cheated on her kindhearted and generous boyfriend, Aidan, only to end up with the more exciting but self-absorbed Mr. Big, will be better off in the framework of marriage and family. (Some time after the breakup, when Carrie ran into Aidan on the street, he was carrying his infant in a Baby Björn. Can anyone imagine Mr. Big walking around with a Björn?)
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